Are you a concerned parent looking for ways to help your child deal with bullying in school and other areas of his or her life? Can you feel the anguish that they're experiencing? Well, if you're like me, and scores of other parents dealing with the same thing, the answer is... "Of course?"
Let me ask you a question then.
"What the hell does self-defense have to do with your child beating the crap out of a bully?"
I know that that sounds brash, strong, and even a bit low-class? But... it's nonetheless true!
You see, I teach people how to not get beaten, broken, or killed by others who believe that violence, in any form, is acceptable in getting what they want. And, if your child is the target of bullying, those responsible believe that they can get away with directing their aggression at your baby. But...
That doesn't mean that you have to become a fighter to be able to do that. Sometimes it has more to do with who you are, how you present yourself, and the signals you send to a potential attacker, as to whether or not you're chosen at all!
You and I both know that these same bullies - the ones targeting your child - by-pass a ton of other kids in the process. However, I know something that you may not. And that is that martial arts training can teach your child the important, life-changing lessons that will allow him or her to be able to beat the bully - often "without" fighting at all.
And here we are at my question again. I'll lighten the intensity a bit, but I want you to think about it for a bit. Ready?
"What does your child learning martial arts or self-defense have to do with them beating up the bully?"
The reason that I ask the question is this...
A lot of parents, teachers, and school administrators believe that if your child learns to defend him or herself - if they take up the study of martial arts and learn self-defense skills...
They'll become fighters and be just like the bully.
I'm confronted with this belief and oppositional mindset almost every day.
And, to this I say...
What a load of crap!
Again... I know, I know... too rough.
But, you know what... if I tone this down and apply the same "political correctness" that allows bullying in schools and elsewhere to exist... then I wouldn't be able to help you and your child solve this problem nearly as well. And that, is the truth!
To this objection about martial arts and self-defense training - about empowering the victim, rather than hoping to reeducate the bully - I say...
"So, you'd rather have your child targeted, humiliated, and even beaten, instead of being someone the school bullies are afraid of, and others know they can go to for protection?"
"Would you rather whine, whimper, and "bully" the school, the government, the police - sounding like a victim yourself - hoping that someone else will fix the problem. Or would you rather take the shortcut and give your child the tools that are proven to change the game and make not just "these" bullies go away, but...
...every bully they could ever encounter... for the rest of his or her life?!"
The fact is that most kids who are being picked on, bottle up the frustration, anger, and anxiety - and they hide away until they can't do it anymore - until they literally "explode." Then, one of two things happens: they either explode outwardly and, when they do lash back at the bully, they go WAY overboard. Remember the scene from the movie, "A Christmas Story," where Ralphie turns on the bully and beats him bloody and senseless on the ground? Or, how about Columbine, where two kids lashed back so violently that they went on a shooting spree until they finally turned the guns on themselves!
Or, the ones who don't, explode inwardly and self-destruct, either emotionally or, in many cases, take their own lives - believing that, "This will teach 'them' a lesson!"
So? What does this have to do with martial arts or your child learning how to defend him or herself?
The simple fact is that the martial arts, while teaching students how to physically defend themselves from physical attacks, also teach them how to 'deal with violence and aggression.' So, instead of becoming aggressive - instead of learning how to "beat the crap out of the bully," as many believe, your child will develop a sense of calm, in the face of bullying and aggression.
And, they will also develop a sense of confident, disciplined presence - a look of command in their eyes that is a major "Stop" sign to any potential bully.
Do you really want to stop the bullying that your child is experiencing? Do you really want to relieve them of the pain, suffering, mental anguish, and fear of another day dealing with bullying in school, or where ever he or she is experiencing it?
Do you want to see them develop the ability to beat the bully 'without' fighting - to be able to defend themselves if they have to, without becoming that which they fear most?
Then, I highly recommend that you take a serious look at getting your child into a solid, professional, martial arts for kids program. Seriously, it could be the best anti-bullying program you could ever find!
Isn't it time that your child learned how to really defend themselves against bullying in school and everywhere else? Isn't their health, self-confidence, and well-being worth getting real solutions?
By learning what really works to stop bullying behavior, and by giving your child the tools that do just that!